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What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

Last Updated: 17.06.2025 00:52

What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.

Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.

Off the top of my ancient head:

Why would a man be interested in an ordinary woman while there are very beautiful and fabulous women?

Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.

Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.

General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:

What is the impact of being stereotyped as poor on an individual's life? How does it make them feel?

These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.

Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.

Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.

Is the Democrat party connected with organized crime in America?

Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.

Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.

Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”

What is the one thing you don't understand that others do?

Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.